Communication Essay Paper on Skills Application Paper

Skills Application Paper

The Basic Skills: Sizing Up the Situation

Who: my wife and I

Where: at our home

When: Saturday, 14th of October at approximately 10:00 am

What: my wife would like me to act as her chauffeur and take her to and from the mall to undertake some shopping. However, this activity is improbable to me since during the same period, I am supposed to be having my classes. This creates a sense of conundrum since the two tasks seem to clash with each other at the exact time that they are both supposed to be executed and accomplished.

Why: the reason I chose this situation was because I believed that it could be ideal for assessing the core issues of the communication process between two parties. The two conflicting situations and the two conflicting parties each with their own perceptions, ideologies, and tasks present an opportune moment to use reason to achieve a communication dilemma.

How: The clashing of the two tasks has resulted in an argument arising due to each side seeking to achieve their objective on time and efficiently. Therefore, this has created a communication dilemma where my wife has become angry with me, and does not think that I am being fair with the assessment. She believes that it is my duty as the husband to perform tasks and responsibilities that she assigns or requests me to perform. This means that her foresight is one-sided and does consider the needs or capabilities of the other party. This is a selfish form of communication since for effectiveness in communication; both sides have to be willing to come to an agreement.

An effective communication between two or more parties involves several factors that serve at arriving at the final decision, understanding, or agreement. These factors are speaking, listening, and reasoning. In this regard, both parties have to be actively involved in the communication process to ensure that their voices of reason are heard and understood. However, in this scenario, my wife seems to prefer a position where she is the active speaker of the conversation or communication process, while I play a passive role of listening and accepting her wants or needs. This is a classic example of poor communication since only one party seems to achieve its objective. By becoming angry that her demands or needs are not being met, she seems to forward this same ideology that only her needs should be met. This means that she is acting as the active party of the conversation, and thus totally contradicting the ideals of an effective communication process.

The conflict of tasks between taking my wife to the mall, and going to classes forms a basis for argument that I could be the person that does not want an effective communication, but rather tries to enforce my will on my wife. However, while performing a situational assessment, one does not need to not only look at the communication process being flawed, but also on the ability to weigh the viability and importance of tasks. Therefore, this use of reason to decide on the appropriate task to undertake in this case offers an interesting view on the situation. One of the ways of weighing the viability and importance of the tasks would be to check if the any of tasks could be postponed. This would allow one task to supersede the other in its time of execution and accomplishment. Secondly, weighing the tasks with previous scenarios allows for an assessment of the situation as being repetitive and only side always winning the ‘war’. This would serve to prove if there is a bias in the communication and decision making process towards only one person.